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Romancing the Tarot: How to Use Tarot to Find True
Love, Spice Up Your Sex Life, or Let Go of a Bad Relationship - Phyllis Vega
Review by Michele
Anyone who reads cards will quickly discover that a large percentage of the
questions asked, especially when reading for others, concern matters of the
heart. This book, by Phyllis Vega (Power Tarot) is almost entirely
devoted to the topic of relationships.
The introduction talks about different types of relationships and how the tarot
can be used to provide insight into relationship issues. Chapter One –
Synchronicity, Symbols and Tarot Divination briefly explains the author’s
theory on how tarot works. The author chooses to avoid tarot history by saying
that the origins and original uses of the cards are unknown.
Chapter Two – Tarot Basics explains the structure of a tarot
deck and describes the Major and Minor Arcana, suits, court cards and pips. Chapter
Three – Getting Started provides information on choosing a deck, storing
and caring for your deck, clearing, shuffling, and several other basic topics.
Chapter Four – Tarot and Personal Empowerment explains that we control our
destinies, vice the cards, and explains how to work with spreads in an active,
vice passive, manner.
Chapter Five – The Greater Mysteries: Major
Arcana, provides card meanings for each of the Majors. A key word for the
card is given at the beginning of each section. The meanings begin with general
information about the card. This is followed by several specialized
These categories are followed by a section of key words and
phrases for the card. These tailored meanings are this book’s best feature.
The author does not skimp in her explanations for each section. Nor does she use
the same words over and over, varied slightly to fit the category. This book
provides advice on how to interpret each card in terms of the category and
suggests appropriate actions. The meanings reminded me of advice you would get
from a friend. To provide meanings of this type, the author has to rely on her
own experience with the cards. Experienced readers may find that they have
a different take, but I think most readers will find something useful in these
meanings. Less experienced card readers who have not built up a store of
experience-based meanings will find themselves referring to this book often.
Chapter Six – The People in Your Life: Court Cards begins with some
advice on reading court cards. This is followed by information on using court
cards as significators. Each card is then described in the same manner as the
Major Arcana. Chapter Seven – The Other Mysteries: Pip Cards provides
information on suits and numbers. Again, the meanings are in the same format as
the Majors and Court Cards. This book does not skimp on the Minors, as many tarot
books are wont to do. The discussions of the Minors are as robust as those
provided for the Majors and Court Cards. An excerpt is provided below.
Chapter Eight – Romantic Patterns: The Spreads briefly discusses
spreads. The spreads themselves seem to be in Chapter Nine. This section
provides 50 spreads designed for relationship questions. They range from three
to 12 cards. Specific spreads are provided for the most commonly asked
questions. For example:
Is it love?
- This spread answers the question – is it love or a passing fancy?
Phone Tag- Answers the question – will he or
Either/Or – Choosing between two lovers
Letting Go – How to let go and move on
My Career/Your Career – Solving career
Looking for Mr./Ms. Right – When will you meet
your special someone
Infidelity – Is your significant other
cheating on you?
A few of the spreads are standards that have been adapted for relationships. An
example is the Celtic Cross for Lovers, described as a couples-only version of
the Celtic Cross.
Chapter Ten – Putting it All Together provides four sample readings as
interpreted by the author. She does not shy away from the more difficult issues,
choosing to interpret spreads that answer the questions, “Should I leave my
husband for another man?” and “Will my husband leave me for a younger woman?”
While these questions may make one uncomfortable, I will wager that most
people who have done a significant number of readings for the public have been
asked these questions before.
I recommend this book for anyone who reads for others, and for those who read
for themselves about relationship questions. While you may not agree with all of
the author’s takes on individual cards, I feel confident that most people will
find this book useful, even if only for the large number of relationship spreads
- Romancing the Tarot
- Author: Phyllis Vega
- Publisher: Simon and
- ISBN#: 0684864053
Like all of the tens, this one denotes completion, and signifies a conclusion or
summing up of what has gone before. With the Swords Ten, the ending is an
extremely messy one. You feel as if you have been stabbed in the back. The worst
part is that the betrayal comes from someone you trusted. Despite the fact that
this ten is sometimes seen as a card of ruin, defeat and disaster, it isn’t
about physical death. Its appearance indicates the dramatic end of a cycle or
period in your life. A job or a relationship you were counting on ends, and
everything looks black.
Expectations: As with the Eight and Nine of Swords, your predicament is not
nearly as bad as it seemed. You have been deeply hurt by the treachery of
someone whose loyalty you took for granted. However, if you had been thinking
clearly from the beginning, you would have realized that this ending was
inevitable. Whatever the circumstances of the breakup, you’ve outgrown that
particular job or relationship. You may even experience a feeling of relief now
that you are no longer in the grip of what had become an untenable situation.
The worst is behind you. Clear away the debris, then pick up the pieces and
prepare to move on.
Emotional Potential: In her book Motherpeace, Vicki Noble writes that this card
“represents the letting go of some idea to which the ego has been attached.”
When this happens to you, you may feel as if your life is over. Actually the
future looks grim because some portion of your life as you’ve known it is
ending. However along with this death comes a rebirth, and ultimately, you’ll
recover from this calamity. New opportunities will arise that will change your
life for the better. Meanwhile, accept defeat, acknowledge your mistakes, and
ask yourself what you learned from the experience.
Sexual Potential: Your most intimate relationship has soured. You will find that
you are giving much more than you are getting, and you are having great
difficulty keeping up the pretense that nothing is wrong. The appearance of this
card often correlates with the discovery of an extra marital affair, or the
revelation of some other relationship-shattering deception. Unless you are a
candidate for martyrdom, you’ve reached the saturation point. Although you may
be reluctant to abandon the union, your partner’s selfishness and utter
disregard for your feelings leave you little choice. The sooner you accept the
fact that it is over, the easier it will be to get on with your life.
Material Potential: This ten warns of the disloyalty or betrayal of someone
you’ve trusted. Watch your back if you draw this card in answer to a question
about work, business deals, legal matters or economics. Disputes and
disagreements with bosses, partners, associates, or coworkers can lead to future
hardships stemming from financial setbacks, demotion, or dismissal from your
Spiritual Potential: On a spiritual level, death is always followed by rebirth.
Prepare for the impending transition by releasing the past and its painful
Challenges: Having experienced real problems, perhaps even tragedy, you are
quite exhausted. Still you must resist the temptation to turn your life into a
melodrama, by adopting a victim mentality. Stop asking, “Why me?” and
concentrate instead on doing whatever it takes to get yourself back on track.
Outcome: You were tested and you survived. There really isn’t much left for
you to fear. No matter how awful you feel, you realize that matters can get no
worse. The painful struggles that brought you to the point of crises are over,
and you won’t have to suffer anymore. It is the end of an illusion, but the
beginning of something real.
Key Words and Phrases: betrayal, unhappy endings, treachery, misfortune, being
stabbed in the back, loss, the final and dramatic resolution of a situation, the
end of thing on which you had been counting.
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